Disconnect-a-rama | Print |
Friday, 14 May 2010 02:01
As Tommy-Two-Tone asserts: “The Church does not have a practice of disconnection. It does not have any such thing.”

But do they????  Here’s pretty much how it goes down.

I’m thinking as I write this, that this is pretty typical of the response one gets when one decides to become independent – and announces it.

Upon discovering a blog existed (Marty’s), the relief was palpable. I became rather glued and/or addicted to finding truths. I started to de-PTS and some of the invalidation that was so part of my thinking (after 32 years in the S.O.) started to fall away. It explained so much. No, it actually explained everything. Some of the posts kicked me in the teeth, some the heart, some at the core of my being. I took a major ride on the tone scale. The hardest part (for me) was confronting the evil. The loss of what I’ve dedicated over ½ my life to was not easy to deal with (understatement).

In studying all the information to be had, all I could do is conjure thoughts and pictures of “what can be done?” and “what can I do?”  But that was kind of a moot point, because I have a family. I have a son that I love with every fiber of my being. I love his wife and my two new grandsons. They are  Scientologists. Both ex-SO, but know anything outside the C of M is black, and anything inside, is white.  Knowing the op basis of the C of M, the disconnection enforcement, the veiled if not verbalized threats of “no-eternity-for-you”, and how the whole subject of “you’re either with us or against us” is tied up and enforced…. well, I knew what I was facing. So I put it off.

It took 8 months to move. Longest comm lag for me (this lifetime).

About 2 weeks ago, I got a really sweet phone call from my daughter-in-law saying why don’t you come visit for 4 or 5 days. See the kids etc etc. So I did.

And for the most part, it was nice.

But the real purpose for the invitation was to “salvage me”.  My son was worried about me and had contacted OSA asking for help. Had he had his way, OSA staff would have come and seen me personally. He had this conditionally set up. We sat and he explained to me how what I was looking at was insane. I had gotten on the internet while I was there, and my daughter-in-law got into my email looking for stuff that proved I was really off the rails. My son made it abundantly clear to me that he would not listen to any of the “entheta” (ie the truth), and basically pleaded with me to cease my course of action. And you know? The funny thing is, is that he really was doing this out of love for me. And I knew it and know it. But he won’t look.

When back home, I got an email from my daughter in-law that was heartfelt. Pushed the mom buttons (which were pushable), and quoted me from the Data Series and other relevant (to her) policies and implored me to cease.

Then I talked to my son more, with him telling me that he was going to have to disconnect, but I probably have a few hours; to let him know I could come stay with him – he’d put me up; I could get the real truth, and and and.

So the hours elapsed and that’s the end of it. No return phone calls. Nice Mother’s Day. The next day, my in-box if full of “friends” who wanted to check with me if it’s true that I’d resigned from the church,and/ or joined an SP group. No one knew anything about this cycle except me, my son, my daughter-in-law and OSA. I’m assuming my daughter-in-law hit my facebook profile and sent a bulk announcement. Then it went viral with all manner of facebook police jumping aboard.

In a 48 hour period my “friends” on Facebook went from 214 to 130.
Here’s a smattering of them:
“I was told there is something on you at AOLA”
“Is it true you resigned from the Church?”
“Brief me. I just got some news, not so good news on you crossing over the fence. I don’t have any other data except a rumor – what’s the deal? Are you okay? Still with the team, or what? Brief me.”
“I just received a comm from someone on facebook telling me you resigned from the church and are hooked up with an SP group”.
“I was informed by someone that you have resigned from the church. And that you have connections to known SP groups. Is this truly the case?”

...and my fave:

"You have (so and so) on your friends list. You should take him off, as he is a member of an SP group called 'Free Heber Jentzsch.'”

And so it goes.

But I let my son know (via email) that this is the very thing I am dedicated to fixing. Obviously, this isn’t the only thing, but it’ll get fixed along with the bigger picture: Scientology back on track. The good guys who do that will be me and you and all of us. And it will all be all right again.

Don’t mean for this to be soppy. It just is what it is. Had I done this 8 months ago, the result would have been the same. I could have been doing more for 8 months. And with what we are handling – that’s an appreciable amount of time.

Okay, we’ll fix it.

Written by Linda McCarthy